Monday, July 27, 2015

Day 5- Sunday



Jeremiah 29:11- For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.

That was the verse the pastor spoke on today at church. I did not understand a word the man said, but The Man had a man translate most of the message for him! The Man said the lesson was basically don’t live a Sunday Christian life, but live it all your days. J For me, I thought… what an awesome verse for us to hear in the middle of this trip. PRAISE GOD for meeting us where we are and giving us just the words we need.
Church was super awesome! It was SUPER hot! It was MUCH longer than what we are used to (we were there from 10-12:30 and we were late). I didn’t understand anything they said or sang about…. But I left feeling refreshed and filled with the Spirit… I had my own little worship service in my head! J PLUS I got to experience it with Benithy in my arms! I kept thinking…. This experience is something we can share and discuss and have together for the rest of her life. I get to take a glimpse into her culture and this can help me bring her up to LOVE it later in life (I hope). What a blessing!

After church we went to the crèche where we were able to play with Benithy! She was ready to play right away and we got her going and playing and laughing! We brought a coloring book for her to enjoy. Some other kids joined us and it worked out well. She got stickers and LOVED that. After lunch (She SARFFED it) we played with these plastic unicorn toys I brought for her. She did more counting (in English), sorting, putting away and dumping out then actually playing with them. It was really cool to see her interact with them (we caught it on video… cannot wait to share it with you). Anyway after that we played with bubbles and then a little chase game we love to play. Today Benithy was a lot more interactive with us. Approaching us first. Lots of laughing and playing with our faces. A good day with her for sure!

Then, it was her nap time. She laid down for a nap and The Man and I settled in for a little reading. It didn’t take long and we had some boys at our sides asking questions and looking for all types of attention. They were our entertainment for the rest of the afternoon! I laughed so hard as they did silly things, sang songs, and just were boys! Benithy never woke up…. She was still sleeping when we had to leave. We said: “See you tomorrow” and headed back to the crèche.

Another great day.

 Every day it gets easier… and harder to leave….. As I thought I would.... I want to take about 5 of them home with us. It breaks my heart that there are so many that don't have parents... One of the older boys is almost 16 and then he has to leave the creche..... Can we have him please?!?! Pray for these kids... Pray that more people take the leap to help these in need. :) Thanks! 

Sunday, July 26, 2015

Day 4- Saturday

I always say our day starts off as normal… SO I want to tell you a few things we do each morning that are NOT normal to us:
1-      Whenever we use the restroom, shower, or wash our hands in any way we have to use sanitizer afterwards
2-      Showers are SUPER short and to the point
3-      We lather ourselves with 12 hour mosquito protection. It’s a lotion we put on each morning. Then we spray our clothing
4-      All our produce must be washed n vinegar water before eating.
5-      We cannot use the faucet for anything really all our cooking, drinking, tooth brushing… water must come from the water tank located in our kitchen.

OK so those are a few new things we get to experience! J So today we woke up and did our normal routine and our ride was there to get us promptly at 9:30! We left and headed to the crèche. Today is the weekend crew and when we arrived there was another group of people at the crèche playing and holding the kids. All the people wore red t-shirts. It looks as though they are a part of some organization that comes in to give the workers a break and the kids someone new to play with.
When we got there Benithy was playing in the corner I went over to her and started to play. She smiled and immediately looked for her papa! J She got up and found him and fell asleep in his arms! I, on the other hand, had not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4 little boys laying on me. It was a site to see. Each kid claimed their spot on my leg and didn’t let the other boys share a single inch! Good things I have comfy legs! J They were there until nap time. We to Benithy to her spot for a nap and then had some free time. So we read a bit and talked a bit… It wasn’t long until we had two older boys asking for our attention. So we talked and played with them until Benithy woke up.
Today Benithy was pretty out of it. She wanted to cuddle and be held a lot. Which is find by us! So we pretty much snuggled her and hung out with her for most of the day.
Sadly, our driver told us we had to leave early from the crèche because someone else needed the truck and he had to get us home so they could take it. So we had to leave early. “damen (tomorrow)” we told her. Gave her kisses… and loaded into the truck.
Each day we come home exhausted. It’s a LOT of work and those ladies that are in there all day every day get every badge of honor I could give. Their love and work for these kids is amazing.
Today we got home early and was able to watch the USA lose…. Read a book… and cook a dinner!
Another good day.

Tomorrow is Sunday and I know The Man and I are super excited to experience church here… we are also super sad we are going to miss church there. I pray you all sing loud for us! J

Saturday, July 25, 2015

Day 3- Friday

Today we woke up after a good night of sleep! One thing we will get is sleep! J We usually end up going to bed early and then sleeping in (compared to our normal routine at home) every morning! Our mornings so far have been pretty laid back. I get my workout in, we fix lunch for the day, we get ready, eat breakfast, and then try and use the wifi here! So far the wifi here has been pretty hot and cold. We’ll have a great connection at one point, and then lose it completely in the next moment! We did get an email out to our friend with a picture of our girl. We’ll try and send more. IF you haven’t gotten to see it we’ll try and get one to you as soon as we get home. Again, we cannot post it on the blog or facebook or anything until she is ours legally!
We were picked up at 9:30 and taken to the crèche. Before we left I looked at The Man and said “Today is going to be an amazing day! It will be better than yesterday… and each day will get better.” Ya know what?!? It WAS tons better today.
We got there on time to meet Benithy playing. When we first arrived she was shy again. We sat next to her playing next to her and around her (there are tons of kids there that love on you… so you do your best to play with them, but still let Benithy know you are focused on her… it’s a hard and weird combo). Anyway, she had breakfast shortly after we arrived and then we walked around with her for a bit. She had a dirty diaper, and I think that is why she didn’t approach us to hold her right away because once she got cleaned up she ran right over to me and I held her.
Soon all the little ones were taken to a little room (the TV room) and we watched “Despicable Me.” Benithy didn’t really want anything to do with the movie (I can’t really blame her the whole movie is in English, and it was REALLY loud in the room) so she snuggled up to me and eventually fell asleep. She was out for a good 1-2 hours. I looked at The Man and told him that we wouldn’t have to worry about Benithy sleeping through loudness at home! J
After she woke up we snuggled a bit more and then we went outside for a bit and tried to play with her. She was still waking up and didn’t really want to have any of it. We went and got bubbles and played a bit with those. Then she ran out of our hands, turned around and said “Mama! Papa!” and then motioned for us to follow. So of course we went after her. We played with her for quite awhile in the “school room” drawing and interacting with her and a few other boys that were inside.
3:00 was lunch for us today! All the kids were so hungry. The Man and I made our own lunch and sat down at a table to eat. We ate our food and were sitting there chatting a moment and we turned to look and there was Benithy! We welcomed her and walked back to her table and noticed that not only had she finished her food, but her food plate was completely clean and all the other kids were only about ½ way through their lunch! She scarfed it! I THINK she wanted to finish early to come see us again! J In our home for meals the Bash always gives us places after we finish our food… I always get 1st because I eat fast (Hey! I’m a teacher… scarf it down or don’t eat!)… but once Benithy gets home I may have a little competition on my hands!
We played more after lunch. She really loved when I was holding her and we would chase papa or he would chase us. She also loved us hiding and kinda scaring her out of corners. She also loves humming. She will sit in our arms and hum away. At one point we were playing music on my phone and she was just be-bopping away! She’ll fit right into this family! We LOVE music so much! Cannot wait to bring her home and have her experience the Praise Band and all our music we love!
We finished the day with Benithy taking a nap. We sat outside of the office trying to get use of their Wifi (we’re told it is much better there… and it is!). We were able to contact a few from home and check some things before a few boys hijacked my phone. They love playing games (like anyone does). So they were trying to take it from me. So I got to see some things and check some messages and reply to some of you! J That really helps to see and hear from people at home. It feels pretty isolated here…. We’re alone in this house and we spend the rest of our time with kids that don’t really speak English.


All in all today was better! MUCH better… and tomorrow will be too! We continue to feel your love and prayers as we venture through this part of our adoption. We thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement we could not manage without you all! Keep them coming. From Haiti I send you some tight hugs! 

This is a view of Haiti's mountains. We see it every morning on our drive to the creche. Pretty cool huh?
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Friday, July 24, 2015

Day 2- Thursday- We Meet

Today started like most days we wake up, I worked out, The Man drinks coffee, and then we get ready for the day.
We ate breakfast, packed our lunch, said good-bye to the people that were staying here, and then we waited….. We waited…. We waited. We tried the wifi here and IT WORKED!!! So we were able to upload our blog from Day 1 and kinda check facebook. We really have a touch and go experience here with wifi… we are pretty much unreachable for 90% of the day….. Which really doesn’t matter too much during the day because we are busy, but at night it sure would be nice. One thing I miss….
ANYWAY, finally our ride arrived and we loaded into the vehicle and drove to the orphanage. Another interesting drive full of honks. Another fun observation is that people give thumbs up to say hi.
We arrived at the orphanage and The Man and I step out of the car and stand there waiting as our driver talks to another guy.
 A few minutes later he looks at us, smiles, and says “I thought you would just go on in” our driver says (our driver is also one of the main people in charge of adoptions for Chances for Children…)
“We’ve never been here, we don’t know where to go.” We both said.
“OK” he says and walks us into the orphanage. This is kinda the feeling we have gotten these past few days we’ve been here. We have no idea what we are doing, and no one here seems to want to give us too much information… Or they don’t know what information to give… and we don’t know what questions to ask. It’s been an interesting time… we are going with the flow the very best we know how…
Anyway we enter the orphanage and 3 kids run up and immediately want our attention and to be held. The man leads us to this side room and we wait for Benithy there. We wait for quite a while and as we wait we play with some other kids that are coming in and out of the room.
Finally our child is brought to us! And just unlike a fairy tale meeting… she is bawling, she does not want to be with us… The lady that brought her in plops her on my lap and walks off and we are left with our daughter in all her glory! J So we get out our picture book and we just sit and try and calm her. Eventually she stops crying (and I’m not using the word eventually lightly)… she settles into my arms a bit looser, and then passes out cold. Our first moments are literally crying, snuggling, and then sleeping…. Just like a baby I suppose!
We sat there for a while just letting her sleep… Just letting me sink her in… Just letting us BE with our daughter. She does the same small snore that The Bash does when he is fast asleep. Then another Chances for Children worker showed us all around the campus. We saw the rooms, the play rooms, the “TV room, the new building they are working on, their garden, their kitchen, their dr. office (medic center)… they have an amazing set up for these kids. Then we played! We played from about 1-5. We tried to really focus our attention and time with Benithy, but there are so many kids of all ages that want your attention. SO many yell out mama!! Papa!! And hold their arms up to you. I thought being a kindergarten teacher was a lot of touching…. Oh no… this was touch overload! I do believe that Benithy warmed up to us both quite a bit by the end of our time. We spent a lot of time just following her around as she ran room to room… By the time The Man and I loaded back into the truck to go home we were both over exhausted physically and mentally and emotionally. How are we going to expel this much energy and touching for the next 14 days we asked each other!!!
We may get to bring her back to the guest cottage the rest of our stay here. We aren’t sure yet. That should be an experience on its own, but a great way to get some more personal bonding time with her. Please pray and The Man and I adjust to so many things all at once.
 I wish I could show you a picture of our adorable, dimpled, sweet sweet girl, but we are told we cannot post pictures until she is legally ours! So, we will do our best at texting and showing you in person when we return. Until then… just picture the sweetest girl ever… because that is her!
Her name is pronounced: Ben-ee-tee


Thursday, July 23, 2015

Day 1- Wednesday- Traveling

Today we started our day at 3 am. Luckily we have some great friends that volunteered to drop us off at the airport early in the morning. We left our house and traveled down to the airport, checked in, and waited for our first flight to Atlanta. The whole day seems weird from the start because of the crazy hour you wake up. Plus we have no Bash…. So the day started off in a bit of a haze.

We landed in Atlanta and got off and traveled our way to the terminal for our second flight to Haiti. It was a short walk, train ride, and short walk to get to the international terminal. I wasn’t sure what kind of crowd we would run into. What kind of plane we would be loading. But there actually was a large group of people traveling mostly missionary groups. To be honest I was surprised at some of the ages of kids that were loading up to go. Anyway, we freshened up, filled our water bottle up with clean water, and ate a meal bar (breakfast). It’s kind of funny because the terminal was super new looking. The bathrooms were AMAZINGLY nice. Everything was so clean and fresh and I kept thinking…. What a shock to our system we are about to step into. Shortly after we both freshened up it was time to load the plane. We boarded and got the sweet deal of sitting where the wings are, which means we had extra room for our feet! I called Bash knowing that the internet/wifi in Haiti would be sketchy and I honestly was not sure if/when I was going to be able to talk to him again. After a short exchange and a reminder of our love we hung up with him, put the phone on airplane mode, and we took off for Haiti. The plane ride to Haiti is only 2 hours and 40 minutes. We spent a lot of time reading, trying to cram some Creole in our brains, and I napped because… napping is amazing… and we were up at 3am! They came around with snacks and drinks…. I got my diet coke thinking….. well here is my last sweet soda of goodness for a long time! I sipped it and enjoyed every last drop. J The little pleasures in life.
We finally landed in Haiti and quickly felt the over 100 degree heat as we entered the airport. We walked through all the different stages and customs. Each time we walked to a new area workers were there just pointing in the direction we should go. We finally got our baggage (YES! It all arrived with us) and then we waited. We knew we had a rep from Chances for Children coming for us, we just had no idea what they looked like and we were not sure where exactly they would be. The whole time there are people asking to help you carry your bags, lift your bags, take you in a taxi…. Anything they can think of to help you (for a small price of course). We just kept saying no and waiting. I got a bit nervous thinking about what our plan B would be. Our phones do not work here, and we are at the mercy of wifi and Chances for Children for any help. Finally our rep comes and we walk down to the truck. Two men that I thought were WITH our rep were actually just there trying to make some cash. They quickly ripped my baggage from me and lifted it into the truck for me. I had no idea what was going on until they asked for a tip! J
OK! Now we are in the truck and we start driving. I am not a great writer and I cannot paint pictures with my words. I don’t think I can possibly sum up the scene we saw, but I will try. Before I do I want to preface this with the fact that this is not a dig at Haiti, nor is it a negative thing, these are just the observations and situations we experienced on our way to the guest house:
1-      We only saw 2 stop lights the whole time we were driving
2-      People are literally lining the streets selling items, walking, or carrying items places. There are tons of people out and they just walk through the streets without much regard to the fact that there is a crazy amount of traffic driving without much regard for them!
3-      LOTS of honking. Honking if you are annoyed, honking to say HEY I’m COMING AROUND THIS CORNER PLEASE DON’T HIT ME!, honking if someone is in your way, just random hoking to honk…
4-      A street will go from paved to ridiculously nonexistent in seconds.
5-      I have no idea how we got from point a to point b because there does not seem to be a rhyme or reason to how they are set up. I would not be able to find my way back even if you had a million dollars if I could. It was insane
6-      We saw goats and cows just eating stuff on the side of the road
7-      There is a lot poverty and things are still not rebuilt from the earthquake many years ago. I cannot even begin to describe this.
8-      Our truck broke down about 5 times on our way here. Which was a  bit nerve racking as well.
9-      The mountains here are gorgeous. We are actually up in the mountains right now. They are large and take your breath away
1-   Everyone is dressed up nicely! Everywhere I looked, and all the people I saw were wearing nice clothing. I felt under dressed in my leggings and t-shirt.
1-   As we moved up the mountains we noticed the weather got cooler. Right now we are sitting quite comfortably here in Haiti (never thought I would say that). It has cooled down for the night and there is a nice breeze that makes it quite pleasurable.

When we arrived to the guest house we were welcomed with a group that was here to work at Chances for Children and one mother of a boy from Chances for Children. Today is their last day here… they leave tomorrow morning. It was nice to be welcomed by someone that could speak English as American as that sounds…. We came in, put our stuff in our room and collapsed on the bed. We were just laying there and the others just popped their heads in and introduced themselves. Some of the nicest people in the world! We quickly warmed up to them (especially when they offered a beer for The Man and a glass of wine for me… J). We settled downstairs talking and soon it was dinner.


No wifi to post until tomorrow, but we are pooped at 9:00pm here. We have had a very interesting day, and look so forward to meeting our daughter! The butterflies are in our tummies and our anticipation is as high as ever. But, we will wait until tomorrow! J  

Sunday, July 19, 2015

All God's People Say Amen!

Wonderful friends and family we cannot begin to describe our joy and love we feel from all your support this past week. Through all your givings we have 2 full suitcases full of items to donate to our child's orphanage and raised close to $4,000 in funds! This will pretty much cover our travel costs! We feel SO blessed and we also feel God's loving hands through you all! We have gotten a true view of a church family coming together to help those in need!

All we can do is sing:

You are not alone if you are lonely
When you're feeling afraid you're not the only
We are all the same in need of mercy
To be forgiven and be free
It's all you got to lean on
But thank God it's all you need

AND ALL THE PEOPLE SAID AMEN
AND ALL THE PEOPLE SAID AMEN
GIVE THANKS TO THE LORD FOR HIS LOVE NEVER ENDS
AND ALL THE PEOPLE SAID AMEN

If you're rich or poor, well it don't matter
We grow strong and our love is what we're after
We're all broken but we're all in this together
God knows it's summer and fall
And He so loved the world He sent His Son to save us all

Blessed all the poor spirits who are torn apart
Blessed all the persecuted and the pure in heart
Blessed all the people lonely for another start
For this is a kingdom
The kingdom of God 




We leave this Wednesday for Haiti and we will be there for 14 days! Please stay tuned for more updates!!!! 




Tuesday, July 14, 2015

We Have a Girl!

Hey everyone I wanted to write down this roller coaster ride we have been on for a week!

It all started last week while we were in Texas. We got a phone call from our adoption agency telling us that it was looking good for us to get our referral later that week! We would be matched with a little girl! Our agency also told us that we would probably be traveling to Haiti by the end of the month.

The rest of the week was spent:
Looking at Haiti plane tickets
Trying to plan a fundraiser
Trying to wait patiently for our referral to come in so we could learn more about our little girl

So Wednesday passed... and nothing.... Thursday came and we got an email saying that our referral was in, but just not in the hands of our agency. Friday came and we were told we'll be getting our referral on Monday. So Monday came and we sat impatiently waiting for any information about our girl. That day I got an email that said we will probably not get anything until Tuesday. AHHHH!!! This is kinda how the whole adoption process works! Why it's so hard not to get your hopes up, but so painful when things don't come like they are supposed to!

Anyway, our country rep sent an email Monday with the French version of our referral... Which doesn't do us any good except that there was a picture of our little girl!!!! So we finally got to SEE her!

Finally today we got our referral.

Meet Benithy
 She just turned 3 years old in June

Her beautiful big eyes and chubby little cheeks! Cannot wait to snuggle her in a week or so!

Right now she is at the Creche Chances for Children http://chances4children.org/ You can check out their site there. When we go to visit her we will bring with us a ton of needed items to donate to their orphanage. When we go on our bonding trip to see her we will get to stay in the guest house at her orphanage!


Here are our next steps coming up:

1. Fly to Haiti and stay there for 14 days. There we will bond with our child, fill out legal documents, and do some interviews. By the time we are finished she will legally be a White family member!
2. We will have to come back without her on this trip.
3. Then in about a year we will travel BACK to Haiti with The Bash to pick up our daughter. I don't know why we have to wait a year. I'm guessing it has a lot to do with the Haitian government and the way their country works. It's going to be SO hard to walk away from our daughter. As hard as it is going to be, we are going to try our VERY BEST to look at this as one step closer to bringing her home.... and not focus on the amount of time.... Try and look forward to tall the wonderful years we'll have together... and not all the times we have missed so far. God has provided us with what we have needed so far, I have no reason do doubt that He will provide for us here too!


Prayer Requests:
Safe Travels
Open the heart of Benithy to let us in!
Strength and Patience during our year wait between visits
For us to get to go FASTER than a year to go get her
Funds for all these events in the next few weeks
People in Haiti/ their community
Chances for Children and the work they do there
Our family


Thanks again for the overwhelming love and encouragement during these hard times of waiting and now during this crazy time! Whatever you have done whether it was give money, time, encouragement, let me ramble on and on about it to you, let me cry to you about it, prayed for us and our family, read these blogs, told a friend about it.... whatever you have done for us.... we cannot even begin to tell you how much it means to us. We are absolutely overwhelmed with your love! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Again and again.... Our daughter has no idea how blessed she is going to be with this community she has around her!


-The Whites